MY CAREER GIVES ME A SENSE OF IDENTITY
As a writer, your job is more than just receiving a check every month. It is quite simply who you are and how you channel your daily emotions. Deciding to have my son was the best choice I’ve ever made, and I absolutely enjoy being a working mother. Most women take 8-12 weeks of maternity leave, I took 4 and no one could ever make me feel guilty for working full-time to provide for him and I don’t plan on stopping any time soon.
2. I WOULD NEVER WANT TO RELY ON MY PARTNER
He mentions, quiet frequently, that I could stop working whenever I’m ready, and he’d be more than happy to take care of everything. The problem with that is I can’t even picture myself asking someone else for money every time I need something or when I want to do something. I’ve worked really hard to be the independent woman that I am today, and I don’t know if I’m completely ready or if I’ll ever be ready to let go of that.
3. SOCIETY HAS MOVED ON SO WHY CAN’T I?
Hello, it’s the 21st Century, it’s just as common to find a stay at home dad who owns a business or two as it is to find a stay at home mom. Families look different all across America and I believe that it is possible for both partners to fully operate within their field of work and spend quality time with their child.
4. I DON’T WANT TO IGNORE THE PROGRESS BLACK WOMEN HAVE MADE
There was a time when women of color couldn’t walk into a large enterprise let alone be given the opportunity to excel or even attempt to own their own businesses. Today, we are afforded many opportunities to leave our mark and open doors for those who come after us.
Having it all is possible; it’s not easy but it’s doable! A career . . . A house . . . A family. It may not all happen at one time, but don’t give up on your option of living because it doesn’t look like the lives of others.